Facebook post from bre Sept. 20,2021

I had someone ask me a question on an anonymous app on Snapchat earlier so i figured I’d post a little update based off of it:
What drives you? What pushes you to be a better friend, person? What makes you get up each morning and make it happen?
I’ve been able to keep smiling through what God has managed to make one of the hardest trials in my best friends life as well as in his parents, siblings, family’s, and friends lives. It made an impact in the entire community. But running off of what Mrs. Stanford has posted, I believe God saved Julian for a reason. I never realized how much someone can truly rely on one person until these past few weeks. I always consider myself to be independent but I guess I was wrong. I find myself looking at everything I do and seeing it differently. I’ve find myself crying over the simplest things, like yesterday we went to go see a Panthers game in Charlotte and I found myself crying on the way home because we stopped at the gas station, and I picked up some gummy Lifesaver candy. It reminded me of when Julian and I had driven up to Charlotte, he bought us a pack of gummy Lifesavers and told me a story about them. I find myself waking up in the morning expecting him to call me to get up and get ready because he’s on the way to pick me up for school. I find myself spamming his Snapchat now instead of him spamming mine when I don’t answer, I do it trying to update him on life in chapin as it happens. I find myself thinking about how he told me he loves me just before he left work like he always does but he didn’t call me that night to tell me he got home safe. I’ve done my best to keep every post happy for our community and everyone looking at all the updates but you can’t really hide the sad thoughts forever. I’ve struggled as everyone else, I’ve struggled not having him hug me each day, tell me to be careful, walking beside me, crying with me when I felt alone, texting me randomly and saying all the right things that make me smile(see what it’s like to be Julians friend in pictures below). I’ve struggled not to have my person beside me every day. Julian doesn’t hide anything from me, it hurts seeing him in pain but he wants me to know how real everything is. He never fails to make sure everyone keeps smiling through this entire process. He continues to make goals and stay present in all of our lives as he fights each day to heal. 
With this I ask you please keep praying, you don’t have to give money or buy anything if you don’t want or can’t. The prayers and support on their own has shown the Stanford family so much love and continues too every step forward.#StanfordStrong #PrayForJulian

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